It
is reported that more than half of people have snooped on their
partner’s phone. Nothing is more attractive than snooping though other’s
little secrets. In fact, even if your partner is upright and loyal
enough, there is still a great chance to find out something unpleasant.
Your boyfriend/girlfriend is taking shower and you are lying on the
sofa. His phone is placed on the sofa next you. You know his pin and messaging apps’ password. Just take a look see if he is cheating on you or flirting with other girls? What
will you do? Snoop on his phone or give him 100% trust?I made a survey
on Facebook and collected a lot of feedbacks from friends and family.
More than half of them choose to look at their partner’s phone and some
of them admitted that they have been doing so for a very long time.
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I must admit that I’ve looked through my boyfriend’s phone in the past.
Curiosity likes an itch under your skin, and it always distracts your
attention and pushes you to snoop on your partner’s privacy under the
name of love.
Snooping in the Name of Love
In an emotional video issued by Kourtney Jorge on Twitter, she had a
face-to-face talk with her ex-boyfriend about his infidelity and
emotional abuse that ultimately led to their separation. When Leonard
found out Kourtney broke into his emails in search of evidence that he
had been cheating, he was offended by the violation. They start fighting
a lot. At first, he had patience to explain and make good excuses. But
gradually, he became more and more impatient to make excuses which made
Kourtney completely lose mind. She became a snooper. She tore through
cellphone records and installed software to open encrypted apps,
gathering the details she could. In her heart, she had believed in
absolutely private space in a relationship. Snooping in the name of love
is the way giving him more excuses to cheat on you. And hypervigilance
can be controlling and push someone away.
Infidelity in the Name of Snooping
“What did you do?” Kourtney asked in this video. Leonard replied calmly
“I did everything. I've had sex with other girls.” The most irritated
reply is that he even can’t count how many times he cheated on her.
Leonard asked why she not leave even after so many lies and hurts he
brought. Kourtney responded, “Because you’re my best friend.” If someone
cheated on you one time, and you forgive him. That means there are 99%
opportunity for him to cheat on you again in the future, because the
cheating cost is getting lower and lower for him. It’s like a snowball
at first, but as time passes by it grows fast and, finally, become a big
thing ruining and smashing your relationship. At the same time, the
betrayer makes his greatest efforts to practice how to tell lies and how
to use different kinds of snoop-proof apps to anti-break. Your
relationship likes a battle where no love left.
It’s Time to Leave If Snooping is Necessary
Some people believe snooping is a necessary way to find out the truth
and verify their minds. According to a report, the vast majority of the
56,000 questioned discovered infidelity by snooping on cellphones,
emails or messaging app’s account, and about half of them has a
separation ending. We all have this situation, and we all have to face
it. Oftentimes we act out in relationships when our needs aren’t being
met. But the only way to really get what you need is to ask for it! If
you have doubts or questions, even there are so many WHYs in your heart
almost spilling out, just say “I’m having these fears that why you
always lock things in your phone?” Approach it calmly, in a
non-accusatory manner. Whenever you have worries, communicate, rather
than investigate. This approach is the best way to respect yourself,
your partner and the relationship. If you still cannot resist the surge
to spy on your partner, maybe it’s the time for you to leave and say
farewell to this relationship!
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